I want to sit on the porch with you, give you a tall glass of lemon water (or orange, or lime, or whichever you choose) and get to know you. I want to rock on that swing with you by my side as we find support, understanding, and become life long friends. Does that not sound wonderful? We can sit there and enjoy the light breeze from the magnolia shaped fans as they lazily spin. Blowing the heat off of us.
Maybe we will chat about motherhood, the joys, the disappointments, or just find camaraderie in the journey. Possibly we will chat about the most recent book we stayed up way too late to read and all the caffeine we used to make it through the next day. Swapping recipes may be the accomplishment of this moment. Or there is even a chance, we won’t speak at all, but sit there and enjoy the quiet, peace, and comfort of having one another to lean on.
The topic does not matter. The relationship does. We have moved often and it seems that making true friends is becoming harder (or I need more practice) and I often find myself struggling with making friends. To me, friendship is precious and something to cherish and a deep life-long friend (you know, the one you actually take the time to pre-program into your phone) means that someone that should be held deep inside your heart.
But finding them seems to be elusive and people are always so “busy”. Tell me, just how are we supposed to accomplish this?
It is by small things that great things are accomplished.
So, here are my thoughts about friendship.
Find a way to serve the women around you.
You can do this through your church, through word of mouth, through community groups online (like Facebook), BUT if you want that friend that comes to you and that you can go to, you have to act on those online invites. Get out of your comfort zone and meet them. Take someone dinner. Help pull weeds in the garden. Run over items needed if someone is ill. Or simply smile, say hello, and invite them into your life.
Stop all preconceived notions.
Who are we to judge? Maybe that woman who looks put together is really a hot mess (haha, I can relate…not that I ever look put together!). That lady who looks so uninviting may just be shy and uncomfortable speaking up first (anyone else and introvert?). You get it, right?
Do not listen to gossip.
Rarely is it ever correct and usually, it is mean spirited. Enough said. Just. Don’t.
Friendship is amazing and beautiful but needs to be cultivated in order for it to grow. So, sit together on that porch, drink that cool water, and enjoy the bounty of friendship.
Do you have some great thoughts about friendship? I would love to read them in the comments.